I Hate My Life - Make A Change Today

Do you ever have the thought that you just hate your life? Or moments in the day where you think about the life you’re living and just hating it? We all go through ups and downs throughout life. Some of us have these moments and are able to come out the other side. Others struggle with a downward spiral unable to just “snap out of it”. That's when the words "I Hate My Life" come up, over and over.

Some people will continue to get past that moment in time, trying their best to push that phrase to the back their minds, by distracting themselves. The worst route to go down is to dwell on it more and more until it becomes unbearable. But the good news is that there's a third option, where you become so determined to making a change and really focus all your energy on feeling better.

How do you know you need to change?

Most articles and videos out there will tell you that if you want something bad enough then nothing can stop you from trying to achieve that in your life. Which I don't disagree with, but there is also another way that will force changes to happen - and that is if you hate something bad enough, to the point where you will do everything in your power to make a difference, hopefully for the better. When you feel desperate enough in life, that can be the driving force to make you rethink about how you're living it and whether or not this is something you want to go through with for the rest of your life.

What if you choose to do nothing?

If you don't work towards making a change then the current life you are living right now won't look any different in the future. Everything will remain just the same, with you continuing to think to yourself "I Hate My Life!". Now you have to ask yourself how much longer you can cope with this feeling of hatred inside you.

Where do I start?

The first step is to identify what you want to change or what in your life is making you feel miserable. Start by writing down the things that make you unhappy and what you would like your life to look like six months or a year down the line, or even five, ten years into the future. Be as specific as you can. It may be that you are fed up with feeling tired and exhausted every day, you may feel self conscious about yourself, a job you dread turning up for every morning, tired of how you are being treated in your relationship or just about had enough with how your friends take advantage of your kindness. These are all valid reasons to affect your day-to-day happiness, so the nicest thing you can do to yourself is to be strong and take steps to make a change.

How to action?

Once you have identified what the change is/changes are that you want to make, write down the steps to make your goal(s) achievable. If you want to improve the relationship with your significant other, then write down specifically what makes you unhappy, even examples of when these have occurred during the time you have been together. Next – identify what you would like changed in those identified scenarios.

Now you know what you want changed in your relationship, you just need to be brave and speak to the person. Sit down, have a decent uninterrupted conversation with them and work things out together. At the end of the day if you don’t take the first steps in changing what’s causing you to be unhappy then you will remain in this emotional stress for a very long time.

In this ‘relationship’ example you have two options. 1) your partner will be understanding, see where you are coming from and is willing to work with you to make both your lives better or 2) your partner reacts the opposite way and refuses to see the issues from your point of view. In that case you need to really ask yourself if this is a relationship you want to be in for the REST OF YOUR LIFE. Or be nice to yourself for once and put an end to this misery, knowing you will find someone better in the future.

The steps may seem small at the time, but remember - if you don't do anything differently today it will remain the same for weeks to come and you will look back in ten years' time just to realise that nothing has changed. You have control and the ability to change your own future. Some things are obviously out of our control, but there's a lot we can do to make an impact on our own lives.

Conclusion

Whether your life is going to be filled with laughter, joy and happiness, or cries, sorrow and sadness – you have the power to carve your own path to a better future (or worse if you choose). Your life is in your hands and nobody has more control than you yourself.

Make your life worth living and start making changes today!